Is That Smile Real or Fake?
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History of the smile:
It appears that the smile can be traced back to the primate's grimace or fear grin. The evolution seems to be as follows: The submissive grin, used to show "I am afraid," came to suggest that "I am harmless--and therefore friendly--as well" (Morris 1994).
Why do we smile? Simple, a smile shows that you are friendly, relaxed and open. A smile tells others that you are happy. Most of the time, happiness is infectious so others like to be around happy people. People tend to have a natural smile response to your smile making them feel just as good as you. Take a look at the opposite sex when they are smiling. Notice how much friendlier and inviting a smile makes them. They donďż˝t have to have a perfect smile either. People tend to respond to the act of smiling rather than the perfection of the smile. The act of smiling triggers good feelings.
What is a real smile?
A real smile shows in the zygomaticus muscles which pulls the corners of the mouth upward. The muscles surrounding the eyes, orbicularis oculi, begin to squint which causes crows feet to occur at the edges. Also, the eyebrows and the skin between the upper eyelid and the eyebrow come down very slightly. A genuine smile is usually more symmetrical than a fake smile and does not last as long.
A fake smile uses the risorius mucles which pull the lips horizontally apart. The zygomaticus muscles are only used a little bit, to pull the corners of the mouth up slightly. A genuine smile elicits a sense of well-being and enjoyment in the viewer. A fake smile won't produce the same response
In the United States, the best way to judge a real smile from a forced smile is to look at the crinkles in the eyes.
Did you know that there are differences in the expression of emotions on each side of the body?
Take a look at the above faces. Which face looks happier? The answer is below:
Most right handed and some left handed people will say that the face on the right looks happier. The right lip, which is controlled by the left brain, is curled upward. What happens is that the right brain, which controls the left side of the face, has a bigger role controlling emotional expression.
Try this experiment: Take five minutes and look at a picture of the Mona Lisa and then email me and let me know if you think she is smiling. Those of you who do email me back, I will be more than happy to tell you what the general population thinks and why you might think the way you do.
Remember to make someone's day. Smile at a stranger, a friend, a loved one or a co-worker. You can raise the spirits of others by simply looking into their eyes and giving an encouraging smile. You can change a persons entire attitude for a day with this simple gesture.
It costs nothing, but gives much.
You are enriched when both receiving it and offering it to someone else.
It takes only a moment, but its memory can last a lifetime.
None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor that he cannot be made richer by it.
It brings happiness to the home, promotes good will in business and is the cornerstone of friendship.
It perks up the weary, brings cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad and is nature's best antidote for trouble.
It is so valuable, and yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed or stolen, for it is worthless until it is given away.
If you see someone without one of their own, then send them one of yours: for no one needs a smile so much as he who has none to give.
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